Our style reveals our values

“Our style reveals our values”

~ ~- Bryan Magee

Copyright: Aman Malik

In life, whatever you do, write, speak, or carry yourself, your style shall truly reflect ‘your’ values…

And this quote by Bryan Magee helps me learn a lot of things about people.

Many of my friends tell me when I often go wrong in perceiving people “ You are a psychology student, you didn’t even understand?” and then I’m like great! “Does studying psychology transform me into a person with God like powers?” Sigh….I wish. But the truth is that there are far more people out there in the world who are better listeners and observers than me. Sure it is kind of expected that I'll be good at this, but I can also learn by my mistakes right? Anyways I keep psychologising enough in my college, why so much in my life??  

Sure, I’m learning as I’m growing and my life’s lessons are teaching me how ‘untrustworthy’ people can be….and this is where the quote helps…

I’m learning that people are not as loyal and innocent as I’m….and I need to be tactful and interpret their styles before I go ahead ‘liking’ them. And this sadly is the truth of these years!

And I’ll end with this one-

“ I try to anticipate different aspects of each particular relationship, knowing that changing affective experiences will bring about many transformations and many reversals”.

-   Joyce Mc Dougall

(Theatres of the Mind)

I’m a jewel….hard to get

I’m a jewel….hard to get

Yes. I love myself, A lot! And I’m glad for that! You know why? Because I know that I’m worth a million jewels on this earth. I have so much potential in myself. The way I raise myself after every storm throws me far away, tearing my already crushed pieces into bits that are hard to gather, is something that keeps me going!....

I’ll share with you my current FB status..and it goes like:

“And just when we feel that life was already so messed up, there comes a storm, a tornado that makes you realize that there are worse things in life we yet have to overcome...and then I say "Yeah...sure keep them coming...I'll see who'll win!!”

I have so much in myself to give someone..love, care, understanding, sharing and yes, my intellect as well…but just that I haven’t found that someone..and I now know, that I’m no more on that finding spree..Let it be..The best things in life find us, when we least expect them. So, I’m done with the finding bit! Even if it means my parents finding that guy for me…It’ll save me so much from ‘syapa’ in relationships!

Yes, I’m a jewel and people who know me might as well agree too…Sure I’m a human as well..and that comprises my bads, my mistakes too…but at the end of the day I’m MYSELF!

And life continues to teach me lessons…..

Song for the day: Kaisi hai yeh rut ki jisme phool banke dil khile ( Dil Chahta hai)..:)

Aakriti

What’s with boys and emotions?

What’s with boys and emotions?

Note: Before you read this post, let me tell you that I would not wish to generalise anything that I write here. It includes my own experience and hearsays from my other girl friends. I would like to believe that there are exceptions, and perhaps because of the same reason we have some great Men writers who understand not only what a woman is ‘probably’ ( because knowing women can never come to an end!;)all about, but more so understand that any kind of a relationship involves a lot of complexity!

 It saddens me when I see boys running away from ‘emotional’ topics. When mothers say to their growing young boy toddlers“Why are you crying like a girl?” ; just then gets closed the door of that vast range of emotions even before it could have got an opening. So while even research studies say that boys are good in Spatial Intelligence and Mathematical abilities and girls are good in verbal and literary abilities, surely this points to the kind of exposure both boys and girls get in their growing years.

This reminds me of the scene from “Jane Tu” where Imran Khan cries. And that is something unusual for sure. Guys might find it weird, but as a girl I would also like to say that that a guy who cries doesn't becomes effeminate if he sheds his tears.

Why this whole issue of being masculine and strong associated with stringent control over your emotions?  Now you may say that while it was ‘a given’ that girls had to be sensitive, fragile and all emotional and guys, on the contrary, physically strong and all rough and tough ( both in and out), yet the whole aspect of ‘hiding emotions’ and / or refraining from talking about them is something I find very weird.

Orgasmically Divine

Orgasmically Divine

cpoyright: Aman 

It’s about finding that one connect,

That enlivens the soul in ‘you’….

It’s about finding that link,

Which enmeshes into ‘you’….

It’s about coming together,

With all the differences that entail…

It’s about that one moment,

Where you are gifted death, then life…

It’s when you realize the purpose,

To live is, in and not in ‘you’…

It’s when you say, speak or write,

But the moment needs to be felt..

It’s life giving,

Life embracing,

Life empowering….

A moment where the black hole entices you to live the ‘star’ have been and embrace the beauty that darkness is…

And when you do…

It is orgasmically divine!

Copyright: Aman

Wallpaper Love:)

Wallpaper Love

Hello the Vanilla the peoples;) …hope u are germ free, stress- free and are emitting and radiating all the positive radiations that ur beautiful and blissful life could give out!! If not…then worry not!!

When You are HERE (on my blog) have NO fear!!:)

So…I just have this lovely wallpaper from the movie UP on my desktop, I simply love it.

·       I love the girl’s green eyes, which beautifully combine with the deep blue of the boy.

·       I love the way she points at a shape in the clouds ( this is what I imagine her doing) and the boy smilingly looks at the shape perhaps thinking “I’m so glad to have her in life, I can hear her talking all my life”

·       And look at the way the boy’s hand rests on his stomach, to me its a symbol of contentment, that which one could only get on finding a ‘true love’.

·       This movie made me cry like anything. It was commendable to see the way these animated characters had ‘LIFE’ in them. I cried, and felt for the love he had for his wife, to make her dream come true.

·       And for those of you, who still haven’t watched it, do watch UP, because it not only tells us what love is about, it also tells us about determination, about how pure can true bonds be, and the best thing – well ITS JUST WORTH WATCHINGJ

·       Sure, there is a reason for me to have this as my desktop wallpaper, it makes me feel loved, and live with that belief that I’d lie on a mat with my life partner one fine day, on a winter sunny day!:)

This life is gorgeous, praise it even in IllnessJ

Aakriti 

PS: Song on my playlist: Kitni der tak from Delhi Heights...simply love it:) ah! 
Kitni der tak,
Kitni der tak,
Aaj Shaam ya saver tak?
Udon baad main tur jana,
Rowanga main baike door kisi kone which,
Mur ke ni geet maain gana,
Udonn baad tu tur jana..............~~~~~