As I step into this new world of mine everyday with a beautiful smile, expecting things and people to be kind, wishing the day to be more than just ‘fine’, all I view is the beauty in them. Until a few moments before a nice friend of mine brought me face- to face with ‘reality’ of what these people are and how I think them to be (as some ‘good’ people with whom I spend my working hours.
I do not regret having smiled at them, nor do I regret having helped them or having shared a joke with them. And even if at the end of the day I do get to know that they wish to talk some bad stuff about me, and stop themselves because of the fact that someone close to me is there, who might inform me, I do not wish to care, but I also do care (Why do you think then I’m writing this?)
In moments like these, I as a person only wish to learn from my friends (two wonderful ones) who have only given love and kindness in return of all the hatred, disgust, humiliation they got from a familial or a friendly end. So now the question is who am I then to lock my kindness, my generosity, and my friendliness in my heart; for these beautiful traits might just get rotten and stale if I keep them inside me instead of spreading them to people who might in turn learn from them or if nothing else benefit in some or the other way.
I, in my complete senses. am aware of the fact how genuine, honest and frank a person am I. I also know that in today’s time, of the billion population of ours perhaps only good handfuls are left who might be included in this category. Like the Zeitgeist ( the spirit of the times), moreover today’s parents might no more teach their child to be honest, good and true to others, instead qualities like malice, vengeance, tactfulness are ‘in’ and one can only with the help of these traits climb the ladder to success. Good for those who posses them and for those who teach them too, and lucky are those who might have them innately! ( This was just a satire, I do not intend to generalize).
Doing good to others, and emitting warmth, love and kindness to people around you regardless of what they are makes us feel more appreciative of the kind of person ‘we’ are. It does hurt (and I’m still wondering ‘WHY’, when you thought the ‘friend’ of yours to be genuine enough who only goes ahead to include you in their discussions of back-bitching). But then every person we meet or come across cannot be our friend, right?
So let those around you who bother you be the way they are. This in no way means that you act meekly in front of them or become subservient to their demands, for you too are of great importance! If you happen to witness their acts of filth, confront them, talk to them until they themselves feel ashamed or embarrassed of their deeds, and if they still continue to utter shit on your face, just smile to let them know you are at a far higher pedestal than where they stand!:)
Kill them with kidness, that's my motto. I know it's a very "mom" like thing to say. But I find if people are rude and stupid, being nice is the last thing they expect from you.
My brother is one these people who just love to tear everyone him down. But I've discovered that what he's really looking for is a reaction (only took me 27 years to figure out.) if I laugh with him, the sting is gone.
Just keep smiling!
I love this saying by Dr. Suess:
Those who matter don't mind; those who mind don't matter.
The people in our lives who are the most important love you for who you are and the others, well, it doesn't matter what they think.
I think it is so beautiful that there are people in the world like you. It helps make it a better place to live. Thank you!
Always lead with Love.. it gets the best results, and though not always easy to do, you will be able to look at yourself in the mirror and know that you have been a light in the world and have brought something positive into those around you!
Thank u soo much Ry:)
I find that I will give everyone a go, but if a person is toxic, I just prefer to leave them to it, with as little contact as possible
This is exactly how I aim to be in life. I don't always succeed, but I like to think I'm making progress.
Well.. the thing is that when I wrote this a friend helped through what I felt at that moment. And I'm still learning. The irony for me is that I find ppl very complex to interpret at the same time some things they do are very fascinating..but yeah when they hurt you...how does one tell oneself to go over it...and perhaps these are what we call "experiences" of life:)
So much wisdom here. Letting others be and moving on with your own life is definitely the way forward!
Thanks for Rewinding at the Fibro.
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