Often we end up talking about the difference between being 'alone' and being 'lonely'. I think the important aspect in both forms of existing is 'being'. Existential, it might seem. But I do feel that somewhere 'being in that moment' helps us learn better about what life is, what 'people' are and if nothing else it can help us get closer to what 'we' feel!
Yes I've been alone, off late. I've felt lonely as well. Interesting? isn't it ? Being alone and lonely at the same time. Let me create a visual image: It is like you are sitting in a group of people, you are 'a part' of yet 'apart' from that group.(Wow!no wonder I don't play anymore, but words do help me play along).
The state of being alone and lonely at the same time is an experiential state, that which can perhaps be understood best when you 'experience your-self'. So, one is alone in a way, that one wishes to go mute, to be silent, neither listen nor hear what the people around you are speaking, yet there is this yearning for someone to be close to you, to come to you, to care for you, and if nothing else perhaps talk to you? This is wherein 'being lonely' comes in.
In relation to the title of this post, it struck me whysolitary confinement is worse than being confined with someone, no matter what kind of a person that 'someone' is! Life surely becomes one big hell! Is that the reason why many people fear being alone? Having no one to talk to? Perhaps, among various factors.
An old friend of mine told me that in his college life of 4 years, he had no friends till his 3rd year. I instantly asked "how did he manage?" And though he told me that he got used to it, and it didn't matter much, I wasn't convinced.
We need someone at the end of the day to talk to, but that is 'at the end of the day'., what about 'during- the- day?' what if we don't have anyone to talk to? Life is the perhaps the toughest book to understand. Leave Marx, Parmenides, Descartes, we all are reading and 'living' one alive book called 'life'. Ever tried translating it and making sense of it? I have, time and again tried my hand on it, and its hard to point out where I gained and where I lost!
I wonder if there is any flow in the chapters as well. It is like two timelines running simultaneously, one chronologically and the other all inter-weaved like the 'dynamic' unconscious.
Will say more on being alone some other time...when I feel alone....
PS: I'm good:)